Hey lovelies 😘
You might all be wondering why the age 20 but I just couldn’t pass on this one. So for all the 20year olds reading this or parents who have 20year old kids, niece, nephew,friends and all, get ready to discover the struggles of this age and the way out.
In Nigeria,18teen is seen as the age where one is able to take decisions and make choices which have benefits or consequences and be responsible for them legally. But then is this really true at the family level? Cos for me, you’re entering into the teenage age, the pressure and eyes on you gets overwhelming and this still leaves many teenagers immature.
At 20,you get to deal with a lot of academic stress,peer pressure, the reality of adulthood, emotional issues,dealing with relationships not to talk of sexual drive. So I’ll be talking about these stuffs and how to deal with them.
Most kids at this age are probably in senior high or college and so the stress of school gets overwhelming. Trying to do homework, extracurricular activities, reading for mid_term test and examination just to make sure to come out with good grades. This can make us forget to take care of ourselves and not notice that we are gradually disappearing to thin air.
So here’s what to do. Make a timetable and to_do list on school work which has to be done and create a sort of alone time,where you get to do your laundry,exfoliate your skin,do some brainstorming about your future life,exercise and all that to keep you going.
Much of peer pressure comes from the teen age which get bigger as one turns 20. The pressure of drugs,women, skipping classes,wrong gang doubles up its usual force and can wreck the life of 20 year olds if not careful.
To deal with this, learn to meet the right people older than you are to talk about this stuffs,meet godly and experienced people who have gone through this challenges sometime in life.
3.reality of adulthood:
Some kids get so mischievous during teen days that turning 20 hits them so hard like an explosion or tornado when they realize how much time they’ve wasted in things I call vanity which at this point no longer mean anything to them. The thought of making money,be recognized and have a good life begins to dawn on them and they start trying to make these stuffs come through.
Ladies who turn 20 begin to be emotionally unstable. They begin to need more attention, love and affection. Its sad to know that they go finding all these in the wrong places. They feel getting involved in sexual relationships gets to feed their emotions. Others just become so closed up that they shut out people who just want to be friends to them due to thoughts that they want more. This is mostly due to past heartbreaks and broken trust issues.
In dealing with this,learn to let go of past hurt and guilt,cos you only end up hurting yourself by shutting people out and giving room for people to flock in and out of your life messing you up.
5.dealing with relationship issues:
Its funny how young ones get to rush into relationships and end it real quick. Most of them go into relationships for selfish reasons and end up getting disappointed once their needs are not met.
Friendship is another form of relationship where young ones find it difficult to maintain due to ego and uncertain wants. At this stage in life,they begin to want to build tight buddies and forever relationships with various kinda of people. This might be a good step as well as a dangerous one because the openness to these relationships makes them overlook the negative signs in people.
So,be careful in trying to build relationship and friendship so you don’t get broken along the way
Most 20 year olds I’ve come in contact with complain about the increased level or sexual urge and drive. The ones who have preserved their virginity and remained pure begin to double check their decision in staying clean. Its like the sexual drive takes over them and makes them to begin to watch pornography,dirty magazines,go into masturbation and all sort of what not just to cool off the drive. But the question is, ‘ does it really work or does it leave you wanting more’ ?
So what can you do to cure this?personally I feel this drives works in line with what we see,hear and think about, so a guard on these can help out. Also the use of the bible and spiritual leaders to help overcome this urge is a massive and big step in dealing with sexual drive.
On a lighter note,guys when you feel the urge, go get yourself cold water and have a nice bath and Jacuzzi moment and for the ladies …sleep or go on a stroll or girls night out😂😂.
Thanks for reading,I hope it left you educated and entertained….
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