Struggles of a 20 year old



Hey lovelies 😘

You might all be wondering why the age 20 but I just couldn’t pass on this one. So for all the 20year olds reading this or parents who have 20year old kids, niece, nephew,friends and all, get ready to discover the struggles of this age and the way out.

In Nigeria,18teen is seen as the age where one is able to take decisions and make choices which have benefits or consequences and be responsible for them legally. But then is this really true at the family level? Cos for me, you’re entering into the teenage age, the pressure and eyes on you gets overwhelming and this still leaves many teenagers immature.
At 20,you get to deal with a lot of academic stress,peer pressure, the reality of adulthood, emotional issues,dealing with relationships not to talk of sexual drive. So I’ll be talking about these stuffs  and how to deal with them.

1.academic stress:

Most kids at this age are probably in senior high or college and so the stress of school gets overwhelming. Trying to do homework, extracurricular activities, reading for mid_term test and examination just to make sure to come out with good grades. This can make us forget to take care of ourselves and not notice that we are gradually disappearing to thin air.
So here’s what to do. Make a timetable and to_do list on school work which has to be done and create  a sort of alone time,where you get to do your laundry,exfoliate your skin,do some brainstorming about your future life,exercise and all that to keep you going.





2.peer pressure:

Much of peer pressure comes from the teen age which get bigger as one turns 20. The pressure of drugs,women, skipping classes,wrong gang doubles up its usual force and can wreck the life of 20 year olds if not careful.
To deal with this, learn to meet the right people older than you are to talk about this stuffs,meet godly and experienced people who have gone through this challenges sometime in life.





3.reality of adulthood:

Some kids get so mischievous during teen days that turning 20 hits them so hard like an explosion or tornado when they realize how much time they’ve wasted in things I call vanity which at this point no longer mean anything to them. The thought of making money,be recognized and have a good life begins to dawn on them and they start trying to make these stuffs come through.





4.emotional issues:

Ladies who turn 20 begin to be emotionally unstable. They begin to need more attention, love and affection. Its sad to know that they go finding all these in the wrong places. They feel getting involved in sexual relationships gets to feed their emotions. Others just become so closed up that they shut out people who just want to be friends to them due to thoughts that they want more. This is mostly due to past heartbreaks and broken trust issues.
In dealing with this,learn to let go of past hurt and guilt,cos you only end up hurting yourself by shutting people out and giving room for people to flock in and out of your life messing you up.





5.dealing with relationship issues:

Its funny how young ones get to rush into relationships and end it real quick. Most of them go into relationships for selfish reasons and end up getting disappointed once their needs are not met.
Friendship is another form of relationship where young ones find it difficult to maintain due to ego and uncertain wants. At this stage in life,they begin to want to build tight buddies and forever relationships with various kinda of people. This might be a good step as well as a dangerous one because the openness to these relationships makes them overlook the negative signs in people.
So,be careful in trying to build relationship and friendship so  you don’t get broken along the way






6.sexual drive:

Most 20 year olds I’ve come in contact with complain about the increased level or sexual urge and drive. The ones who have preserved their virginity and remained pure begin to double  check their decision in staying clean. Its like the sexual drive takes over them and makes them to begin to watch pornography,dirty magazines,go into masturbation and all sort of what not just to cool off the drive. But the question is, ‘ does it really work or does it leave you wanting more’ ?
So what can you do to cure this?personally I feel this drives works in line with what we see,hear and think about, so a guard on these can help out. Also the use of the bible and spiritual leaders to help overcome this urge is a massive and big step in dealing with sexual drive.
On a lighter note,guys when you feel the urge, go get yourself cold water and have a nice bath and Jacuzzi moment and for the ladies …sleep or go on a stroll or girls night out😂😂.






Thanks for reading,I hope it left you educated and entertained….
Don’t forget to like and leave comments on other struggles of 20 year  and how to deal with them.



Ripples of love

Hey guys😊😊

Its just five days left to Valentine and everyone is trying to do something unique,expensive and mind blowing for their loved ones and that’s great stuff. But also some don’t have the funds to do anything,some have obviously forgotten their inner boxes of ideas and feel its better to just fold their hands and not show love.

Its also important to say that a lot of relationships will be taking a break at this period all because the expensive and glamorous gifts our partners were expecting to show to the world wasn’t available but there’s always a better way out.

Ripples means a particular feeling or effect that spreads through someone or something.

That is to say ripples of water can make up an ocean so also ripples of love expressed can become an ocean of love built up in the hearts of people. The little things we do and say get to remain in the memories and hearts of as many that we come in contact with.

1.smiles

Smiles are facial expressions which flow from inside that we express. A smile can save the day. It has the ability to inspire and pass across the feeling of love and care towards someone. Its a free stuff and less stressful so come on share your smiles with people around you cos they deserve it and it sure looks good on you.

2.compliments

A lot of times people feel its OK not to express how they truly feel and their attractions to something or someone as it makes them vulnerable to hurt. But what’s the use of admiration if it can’t be spoken to the person who deserves it.

people are going through a stuffs daily and it will help if what comes from our mouths are refreshing, mind lifting and cheerful words rather than mean and harsh words which end up ruining people’s personality.

When you see your partner or friend trying to look like someone else,tell them their beautiful or when they smile to you,tell them how lovely it looks on them. These words work like magic once applied appropriately.

3.actions

Love is easier said than done and expressed. Love has been brought so low to the minds of people as mere unaffectionate words that we force down our vocal cord just to get what we want from people and all that. But love is more than that,its about your love for God expressed in your deeds to man. It can be expresses through giving,reaching out to people who need your support and time.

A times people go through grief and all they want is just for us to stay beside them,holding on to them and giving them the feeling that we are not going anywhere neither are we giving up on them. It does more than we think it can in their current state.

4. jokes

Love expressed doesn’t have to be so serious cos serious is way overrated. Our jokes pranks and all that can lighten up the spark within anyone and unconsciously cause them to love us right back. When you play around with loved ones,take strolls,sway on swings,fix their hair up when its messed up and lift them off their feet. Those memories always stay for as long as they live because someone was comfortable with them just the way they are.

Wherever we find ourselves, let be willing to give out love in the smallest way we can. Let the little acts of love be the ripples we allow to drop into the hearts of many so after all that is said and done,they will in turn have oceans of love to pour on us.

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ACCEPTANCE: a step to becoming a better you

hey everyone 😍

I’m so excited to be publishing my first post after alot of inspiration and brainstorming from friends.

Alot of people complain of not been appreciated, accepted and taken seriously but in reality these ones haven’t come to clear terms with themselves to endorse and love who they really are. They expect others to see them for who they wish to be and not who they currently are because of the feeling of not been good enough.

Acceptance in my own words means approval or endorsement of something or someone .

you must come to the actualization that no one will appreciate you enough if you don’t do so for yourself. If you pass in front of a mirror and never pause to notice how beautiful and strong you really are in and out, there’s nothing anyone will say that will make you better.

Acceptance gives us the opportunity to learn and become better versions of ourselves and still be our own masterpiece. It’s OK to be a nerd,weirdo or the classy one, just make sure whatever you put on gives you the opportunity of revealing the true you and also allows you to grow and love who you really are and who you’re becoming

Some feel they are too skinny, or fat, too tall or short, others feel the shape they have got isn’t anything compared to those on TV or not built as those guys they see modelling and so they overwork themselves in trying to be someone else.

Finally, if you don’t feel your worth more than a billion dollar check, you’ll get purchased for that and even less all because you couldn’t see that your a priceless 💎 deep within and all you had to do was let it shine from the inside and light up the world.

You are Royalty ,

you are chosen and beautiful

Alessia Cara sang in her song’scars to your beautiful ‘said these words:

you don’t have to change a thing, the world can change its heart…. oh your beautiful .

Thanks for reading… Please your comments are welcome😘😘.